More Wise times with Karis

So Karis and I were tidying up her toys yesterday when we got onto the topic of me leaving again, she is still trying to comprehend all of this new information. So as we were talking Karis comes out and says "Why are you moving away? Are you getting married? Isn't that what you are supposed to do when you move out?" "No Karis, I am not getting married" "Well maybe you should." FROM A 5 YEAR OLD! Wow...oh well...knowing my luck, she will be married before me...

Wise times with Karis

So Karis and I (my five year old sister for those that don't know) have been spending a great deal of time together lately. Since I have morning off, we spend them together for the most part. Some mornings she goes to preschool and awana, but for the most part me and her just hang out. So early afternoon today, and I am driving her to the babysitters, so I can go to class, and we start talking in the car. We start talking about mothers day and what we want to get mom as gifts. Well Karis starts naming of this HUGE list of stuff she wants to get mom: A color kit, makeup, a red coat, red shoes because hers are broken...just going on and on. So I turn to her and say, "And how missy do you plan on paying for all that?" She looked at me with a complete straight face and with wisdom beyond her years stated "From daddy of course" Like I was the crazy one, oh well, at least she is learning young.
One more story about my little one. Tonight I made Lasagna for supper, with ceasar salad and garlic bread. It was fabulous. But it ended up being only me and Karis. Mom had practice, Haley youth group, daddy worked late and brock was working too. So she was refusing to eat her salad (except for the crutons, she loves those) but I made her eat it. (I am so mean) and well she was very angry with me, crying and making a big scene, even getting to the point of spitting it out. OH I was mad...I had to leave the room. I came back to the kitchen where she was still crying and gave her a talking to instead, then after, her still whimpering, held my arms out to her, and she got up and curled up on my lap. I scratched her back, she cuddled closer. Then I told her when I leave in a month, I won't be coming back for a very very long time. (about 1.5years) and she threw her arms around my neck, and burst into a fresh new set of tears, crying as though her heart was breaking. Holding on to me and not letting me go. Well right then and there I almost second guessed my desicion. A five year old clone of yourself, who is cute as a button (of course she is she is a clone of me) is very hard to resist. Anyway just thought I would share my adventures with Karis!

Five things...

Well since I am laying here...not able to walk and have my laptop sitting in front of me I might as well write a blog. Actually I am writing this blog in response to Deb bidding. She tagged me at the end of her blog, so of course I must proceed.
Five things you may not know about me...
1. I LOVE watching curling...so its sweet the Briars on while I am so inhibited.
2. The two places in the world I want to go to are the Holy Land and Venice.
3. I only learned how to drive standard when I was 20. Three people prior to that tried to teach me...sorry Luke, Tim and Dad.
4. I love Classical music.
5. I used to have the hugest crush on JTT...you know Jonathon Taylor Thomas!!

Here they are, and I am writing this pretty doped up on morphine...haha...so here is who I am going to tag....Julia, the barretts, Jenn Spencer, Jenn Clarke and Matt Rice.

What is next...

I am SOOOO sorry I have not written in so long. Sarah yelled at me at church the other week because it has been so long. Her exact words were "Taryn I will kill you if you don't start blogging again" and THEN she threatened to take me off her link list...the nerve... haha just kids Sarah...Anyway so I have been thinking lots about trends in internet sites. Allow me to explain...

So I have been observing the obvious trends circulating amongst many of my friends. Does anybody remember ICQ? It was so cool to have when I was in high school. Everybody had...everybody but me. My mom refused to let me have ICQ, she allowed me to have MSN but not ICQ. I used to get sooo mad because I felt as though I was missing out on so much.
After a couple years however the cool thing to have was MSN. (So was I extremely ahead of the times or just a complete dork?) Needless to say I loved that I was right in the middle of things. I wasn't behind but I was sitting sweetly where all the cool people were. MSN was pretty big for a long time, and to be honest I still spend way too much time on it.
Towards the end of my last year at Briercrest, the cool thing to do was to create a myspace. So I went all out. I created the cutest myspace that you could. I have music playing, a sweet background and began adding my fellow band wagoners to my "top friends". I began becoming consumed with my "myspace" (it really is an awkward name when paired with the right noun) I checked it everyday, and would become very sensitive about being moved down the list of my friends "top friends".

Then when I moved back to halifax, everyone I talked to seemed to be doing this blogging thing. So of course following suit with everyone else, I definitely started blogging, and with that of course reading everyone else's as well. I began to not only stalk people on my space, but I also began to stalk them on blogspot. It began to get a little out of hand. I used to know all sorts of stuff about people I had never really talked to. Anyway, the more I speak about it the creepier I sound so I will stop now.

The next big fad is one I am currently addicted and obsessed with is FACEBOOK!! Sarah I noticed you got one...jumping on the bandwagon are we?? I am fully and completely addicted to facebook, and I could spend hours a day looking up old crushing...(finding new ones...mind you I will never talk to them...creepy) joining groups and seeing who has more friends than whom. It is ridiculous. Although, I did however get reacquainted with a great friend from my elementary school days. That has definitely been the highlight for me.

As for MSN, blogging, myspace and facebook, I have nothing against any of them. I love them!! I have just been finding that instead of spending quality time with friends, I read their blog , or look at their pictures, and then I feel like I know what been going on in their lives. Thus, at least in my life, it seems to minimize the amount of communication I have with people. Interesting, programs that are intended to bring people closer together actually distance people. So what do you guys think? Do you agree? What trend are you obsessed with right now??

The good ol' NCG

I've loved the Lord for a long time. But I can't seem to perfect the art of what the church expects me to act like as a Christian woman. Ever feel the same way? Let's see if there's any hope for us.

Christian Girl?

I am not a Nice Christian Girl.

I'm not cruel. I am definitely a Christian. And I am female. But I am not a Nice Christian Girl.

Sometimes I wish I were. Sometimes I think I should work harder to become one. But alas, I am not. And I don't think I ever will be.

Beauty and the Taryn

I suppose I should explain myself before my family and friends form prayer groups for my salvation.

... I have met many Nice Christian Girls.... They are beautiful, sweet and almost all of their conversations have something to do with the Lord and what He's doing in their lives.... Then there's me.

In the 18 years since I first confessed Jesus Christ as the Lord of my life, I have met many Nice Christian Girls. (1) In all honesty, they are truly impressive. They are beautiful and sweet, and almost all of their conversations have something to do with the Lord and what He's doing in their lives. These girls are cautious about what they say, they are sensitive to the needs of others and they would never even think of saying something sarcastic. These lovely ladies are well-liked by everyone, because there's nothing not to like about them. I admire them, because they have perfected the art of making other people feel comfortable and accepted.

Then there's me.

I say the wrong thing at the wrong time. Gentleness and kindness fell off of my Fruit of the Spirit Tree a long time ago, rotten and crawling with worms. Sarcasm and I are best friends. My voice is not sing-songy or sugary-sweet, and I do not bake my own bread. The Proverbs 31 woman probably thinks of me with disgust as she gets up before the sun to sew extravagant garments for her family. Then again, she may not even know who I am — we've never actually crossed paths since I'm usually sleeping in until noon.(2)

If At First You Don't Succeed ...

So, why am I not an NCG? It's not for lack of trying. I've realized that they do a lot of things correctly (and their sweetness usually seems to attract the boys). So in an attempt to be more Christ-like (and attract the boys), I have made an effort to morph myself into one of them.

I think the first impression I give off to people might fool them into thinking I'm an NCG. When I'm new to a group, I'm usually quiet and sweet. I don't speak up too much, and I keep my humor to myself. But once I've warmed up to people, it's all over. The real Taryn shines through, sarcastic and lacking in grace.

Now I'm not saying that I'm completely tactless and cruel. I have my share of friends, and as far as I know, I haven't made too many people cry — at least not recently. It's not that I am evil or wrong. I just don't seem to be able to do things with as much compassion and gentleness as the NCGs.

Christian Cloning

I have felt a lot of pressure to be like the NCGs — mostly from myself. However, I think there is also some subtle insistence from churches and families that Christian girls are supposed to be mild and smiley. They are supposed to be obsessed with marriage, and want lots of kids. We girls should always present our best face — no matter what we're really feeling. And once we girls turn into moms, that's when we begin wearing embroidered vests and decorating our kitchens with chickens or apples. While not often vocalized, these ideas are engrained in us, where they quietly help us form judgments about the women around us.

The most important aspect of the Proverbs 31 woman — of all of us women — is our relationship with the Lord.

The NCG is an interesting concept we have come up with, especially since it's not necessarily a biblical idea. Of course, the Bible does tell women to submit. Gentleness is indeed a fruit of the spirit. I wholeheartedly agree with those things. However, all women do not fit into one personality mold. Just look at the women named in the lineage of Jesus, for goodness' sake!

Tamar was bold enough to make sure she had a child, no matter what it took. (She slept with her father-in-law — not something an NCG would do. Actually, not something I would do either. The NCGs and I are very similar in that matter.) Rahab (a prostitute) lied in order to hide Israelite spies. Ruth was pretty wild too. She hung out all night with a man who was not her husband. And we all know about Bathsheba (wink, wink). Then there's Mary, who vocally praised the Lord for her pregnancy, even though there was probably plenty of talk around town about her "encounter with the Holy Spirit."

Those are just the ladies in Jesus' lineage. God has used all kinds of women (and all kinds of personalities) to glorify himself. And He continues to do so.

My Spiritual Gift is Bluntness

Recently, I have given up on trying to be completely like the NCGs. Part of my decision may have to do with the fact that I'm a hopeless cause. But I think some of the reason also stems from recognizing who Christ made me to be.

According to the Bible, God created our inmost beings; He knew us before we were born (Psalm 139). God delights in us (Psalm 18:19, Psalm 149:4). He also has blessed each of us with different spiritual gifts in order to serve Him and others (Romans 12, 1 Corinthians 12).

If all these things are true — and if I choose to believe what the Bible says — then I don't need to be exactly like everyone else; in fact, I was not made to be. The Lord knows the strengths of my personality. He also knows where it fails. Thankfully, I have His word and the Holy Spirit to help me correct my faults and to point me to the truth.

That Kinda Girl

I have often thought that the Proverbs 31 woman and I would not get along. She's busy being perfect, and I'm often preoccupied with caring way too much about myself. However, since I believe that "All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work" (2 Timothy 3:16-17, NIV), I decided to revisit Proverbs to see how God's Word could improve my attitude. (I'm a glutton for rebuke.)

What I discovered is that the woman mentioned in Proverbs 31 is amazing. And not just in an NCG way…

The woman in Proverbs 31 — the wife the Bible says has noble character — is strong and opinionated. Her husband is fully confident in her as she runs around town buying tons of fields and working hard. She has compassion for the poor, and her children and husband have oceans of respect for her. While she does the traditional things we think of women doing (sewing, cooking, housework), the Bible says she speaks her mind with competence. "She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue" (vv. 25-26).

This woman has characteristics of each one of us, ladies. Whether we prefer baking or making people laugh, writing encouraging notes or debating the issues, we are all unique women created in the image of God.

Most of us have heard the following verse before, and if you're like me, you've repeated it a thousand times singing along with an old dc talk song. The most important aspect of the Proverbs 31 woman — of all of us women — is our relationship with the Lord:

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty if fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised" (vs. 30).

Personalities aside, our pursuit of knowing Him better is what we should truly long for.

NCGs + Taryn = BFF

The Lord has blessed all of us with different personalities and gifts. Mine may not be encouragement or service (although that does not give me license to avoid those things). My gifts may be speaking truth or leadership. And that's OK. The body of Christ is made up of many parts. We all have different jobs and abilities, each of them important. "But in fact God has arranged the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body" (1 Corinthians 12:18-20).

I like the NCGs. I admire them. I love being friends with them. But I don't want to be exactly like them. To emulate them would be, in a way, denying part of who the Lord has created me to be. Hopefully, as the Lord teaches me to be more like Him, I will improve on the godly qualities I see shining strong in others.

Nice Christian Girls and I can learn from and teach each other, as the Lord draws all of us closer to Him in order to glorify Himself.

This article was written and taken to fit me...what did you all think?

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Notes

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Writing Nice Christian Girl over and over again is giving me carpal tunnel. Therefore, I may sometimes refer to them as NCG.
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If you have no clue what I’m talking about when I make this distinction between me and the Nice Christian Girls, I am truly sorry. I promise my next article will be less about my specific shortcomings, and more about something that more of you will be able to relate to.

Some pics of stuff thats been going on and I have not been blogging about...

Sorry I deleted my other slide show because it was just too big, hopefully this one works...

Wow I look like fat monica...

Anyway, I have not had any time to blog lately. After wednesday I will blog like crazy for the 2 people who actually read it...anyway but this hertiage face thing was to good to pass up. I saw it on Shelley's website and decided to give it a try with my post jaw surgery pictures. I got some pretty fantastic responses...man how do I always look Asian when I am full blood German. Nothing against it (I love you Josh and Deb) but honestly, my Saskatchewan lisence everyone thought I looked Asian too...mind you I am pretty dang cute looking Asian in this picture...please no one take these comments the wrong way...just enjoy the fatness...hopefully it will never be like that again...